The Struggle is Real

August 9 · 2 comments

in Family Life

As of recently, my husband has gotten a new job.  We went from having a crazy schedule due to his work hours (12-9) to having an early morning for a typical 8-5 job.  I thought I could just just jump in and adjust as we went & everything would fall into place.  I am still doing that several weeks later and things are not falling into place.  There seems to be one thing after another and the juggling act isn’t quite holding up like I was expecting.  Granted, I’ve managed to be up with the hubby every morning (aren’t y’all proud?) but I can’t seem to get a handle on all the daily responsibilities.  How does everyone else do it?

Well, if you know me, you know I came up with a planned out schedule right?  And if we know me, I do it to make me feel better but have no intention to stick to the schedule minute by minute.  Glad y’all know me so well 🙂  Yeah, I got a little crazy on the schedule. As silly as it is, I’m updating it to be more doable (less minutes and more blocking) and will print it & laminate it to refer back to on a regular basis until I’ve made the tasks habits & it sticks.  I don’t know if this works for anyone else, but I practically rely on this method to teach myself how to be routine without having to think about it.

But there have been more than just our routine that’s struggling.  Now that the hubby works away from home, I’m having to adjust that too.  At home with the kids hasn’t really been a problem.  Knowing that he was going to have this job ahead of time has helped me mentally prepare to handle things completely on my own.  Now, however, there are meals to consider; making sure he has lunch ready to go and having supper cooked by the time he gets home.  All these changes happening at once and our evening activities still going on, I have little to no down time & when the hubby asks if I’m okay because I’m not talking (he knows me well too) I burst into tears.  It was just one of those days.  Real person, real problems.

Here’s where the struggles are & what I’m doing to fix it:

1. Laundry. Due to the company my husband now works for, he has “uniform” shirts he has to wear with the company logo.  I get that, but he doesn’t have a huge supply of them at the moment and my laundry routine has been disrupted massively to make sure he has clothes to wear to work. Petty, I know, but routines make life more seamless and this is a major factor in my day to day.  Also, I’m having to relearn how to iron, because if you don’t use it, you lose it & I lost my technique.

Solution: getting more shirts from the company (currently waiting for restock but not sure when that’s happening) or getting permission to get the logo embroidered on shirts we can buy from the store. Until either of the above things occur, I’m just washing as necessary & attempting to get everything ironed before the morning of.

2. Meal planning.  Ugh.  I struggle to stay on top of it to make sure the hubby has something for lunch and to make sure we have something for supper throughout the week.

Solution: batch cooking/freezer cooking.  If you follow me on Instagram, than you saw the big batch of beef & bean burritos I did.  I got the idea from Jamerrill at The Encouraging Homeschool Mom and the recipe from Crystal Paine’s website Money Saving Mom. Those beans were finger-licking good 🙂  Other recipes I’ve done so far are breakfast burritos & freezer biscuits. Up next is pancakes.

Big batch of beef & bean burritos in the works 🙂 #freezercooking

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3. Routine.  I already spoke about this, but I’m still working on something that has me using my time more efficiently.  Although I’m up no later than 7, I feel like I don’t have enough hours in the day to accomplish things that need to be accomplished.  I have managed to homeschool every day, just not at a consistent time each day. Also the consistency of meals is suffering.

Solution:  Plan it out.  I write down the chores to be done daily (ie laundry, sweeping, dishes, etc) & those that are to be done weekly (moping, vacuuming, deep cleaning the bathrooms) & block out times during the day to get those things done. Another thing I’m working on is getting the kids into a routine so we can get things done sooner rather than later.

Now that I’m done rambling, I wanted to talk about this new job the hubby has.  So God has definitely had his hand in our life.  The hubby went from full-time job, to no job to part-time at-home job, to full-time at-home job, and now a regular full-time away-from-home job.  I went from practically useless homemaker to having to teach myself how to manage a home to now adjusting my routine to fit each new change & phase of life.  Baby steps, see? We have grown a lot.  Though you should also know this job has been an answered prayer.  I wanted him to have a regular job, he wanted a job that he enjoyed more and one that was more specific to the his networking degree.  I told God I would be willing to do whatever was needed if He would just give him a different & better job.  And it’s happened.  So I’m taking these challenges and going to work through them for the betterment of my family.  You won’t catch me complaining about the necessary tasks that are required of me.  I share this so you can see the trials we face & the hurdles we have to overcome. We asked for this & we’ll thank Jesus everyday for the answered prayer request.


To all the Mommas that are & have been doing this for a while, HOW DO YOU DO IT? Please oh, please share with me your wisdom!!!  Also, if you want to send a crock pot or a personal chef my way, that’s fine too 🙂

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Caroline August 9, 2016 at 3:32 pm

You are awesome!!


Vanessa August 11, 2016 at 12:12 pm

Thank you 🙂 I appreciate that.


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